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ChatGPT on Narcissism

ChatGPT v4.0

Apologies

Narcissists may use a range of insincere apology tactics, including:

  • Minimizing: "It wasn't a big deal; why are you so upset?"
  • Conditional Apology: "I’m sorry if I upset you" (implying it’s your sensitivity at fault).
  • Blame-Shifting: "I’m sorry, but you made me do it."
  • Self-Victimizing: "I’m sorry I’m such a terrible person; I can’t do anything right."
  • Deflecting: "Let’s just move on; why dwell on the past?"
  • Guilt-Tripping: "I said I’m sorry. What else do you want from me?"
  • Superficial: A quick "I’m sorry" without follow-up actions to address the issue or change the behavior.

These types of apologies lack accountability or a sincere effort to repair the relationship. Responses:

  1. Respond neutrally without rewarding manipulative behavior – Acknowledge Without Validation.
  2. Example: "I hear you, but I need some time to process this."
  3. Assert your feelings and highlight the need for meaningful action – Set Boundaries with Accountability.
  4. Example: "I appreciate the apology, but I need to see actions that show things will change."
  5. Prompt deeper discussion to gauge their understanding of the issue – Ask for Clarification.
  6. Example: "Can you explain what you’re apologizing for?"
  7. Avoid over-explaining or justifying your feelings – Don’t Over-Explain.
  8. Example: "I’ve shared how I feel, and that’s what matters to me."
  9. Shift the focus to their actions and willingness to make changes – Redirect to Accountability.
  10. Example: "What steps are you willing to take to ensure this doesn’t happen again?"
  11. Stay calm and prioritize your emotional well-being – Stay Calm and Detached.
  12. Example: "Let’s revisit this later. I need some space right now."